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agoodwinsmithI just read this article (click bait, actually, but still):
https://medium.com/weg-pub/count-interruptions-at-parties-for-science-392f09a2ac4f
recommending people to count at parties how often men interrupt women.
I don't need to do that because I live that everyday I spend in public.
However, I think this one is going to be difficult to break. We start training kids in this behaviour so early.
The next time you are at a family gathering, where there are rugrats running freely, check out what happens with the women in the kitchen. When a little girl comes in and wants to interrupt, she is told to wait her turn. When a little boy interrupts, every adult woman in the room stops what she is saying or listening to and turns to the child and listens until the child gets through their long disjointed no-punchline story. Many women will also stop peeling vegetables or washing dishes or whatever they are doing, and watch the child with an encouraging expression.
Even though I know about the men interrupting women thing, and I hate it, I have been guilty of the small-boy-gets-the-stage-and-the-microphone behaviour. At a family gathering this is as natural as breathing. Nobody does it with world dominance in mind. Everyone doing it has been conditioned in the same family cauldron.
So. It's not just that men need to stop interrupting women - but women need to stop stopping when a man begins to speak overtop of them.
Easier said than done, that.
https://medium.com/weg-pub/count-interruptions-at-parties-for-science-392f09a2ac4f
recommending people to count at parties how often men interrupt women.
I don't need to do that because I live that everyday I spend in public.
However, I think this one is going to be difficult to break. We start training kids in this behaviour so early.
The next time you are at a family gathering, where there are rugrats running freely, check out what happens with the women in the kitchen. When a little girl comes in and wants to interrupt, she is told to wait her turn. When a little boy interrupts, every adult woman in the room stops what she is saying or listening to and turns to the child and listens until the child gets through their long disjointed no-punchline story. Many women will also stop peeling vegetables or washing dishes or whatever they are doing, and watch the child with an encouraging expression.
Even though I know about the men interrupting women thing, and I hate it, I have been guilty of the small-boy-gets-the-stage-and-the-microphone behaviour. At a family gathering this is as natural as breathing. Nobody does it with world dominance in mind. Everyone doing it has been conditioned in the same family cauldron.
So. It's not just that men need to stop interrupting women - but women need to stop stopping when a man begins to speak overtop of them.
Easier said than done, that.
