The big erasure has begun.

I have been reluctant to do many of the legal things I need to do because it feels like I am deliberately erasing all evidence of Lorne's existence. I did the thing to remove his name from our house today. I need to remove his name from the car and to get his financial things in my name. I don't mind the "getting them in my name" part. It's *really* upsetting to be removing his name.

Mind you: joint ownership of assets is good, and I would encourage you to pursue such arrangements. At least the surviving person isn't in a precarious situation about where to live and how to finance it. I wish one didn't have to actually remove the person's name, though. I think it would be fine to list the person on the documents as deceased. I suppose there is another legal meaning when a name is kept like that - it probably means the estate still has say.

Anyway. I have been hiding my head in the sand, not doing it. But now I have started.